Gabriel It seems like you are making some progress. I agree with the advice you are being given, dont do any excessive offering. You are being friendly, but shouldn't be doing any pursuing. I think to some extent, our behaviour with our children is a good reference of character, and will have rewards with our W's... if not, we are still doing the best that we can with our kids, which is what we would be doing anyhow.. I just wanted to pop in to offer some support.. I do give you props on your attitude... you are doing terrific, mental health wise..