Gosh Gabriel, you handled the situation with wife and son tonight like a pro. Have you changed a lot since the divorce was filed or were you always this level headed? If these are changes in you, there is no way your efforts are going unnoticed. She won’t be able to resist your stability and new body much longer.
Has your divorce been finalized yet? If it is going to be soon, I think wife feels she must go through with the divorce because you will revert to your old ways any day now. Walk-away spouses are very skeptical. I bet she is planning to divorce you and then if the changes she sees in you continue, she will know that the changes are real, selfless and permanent.
I think the fact that I have continued my new way of life even after the divorce was final has been a huge influence on H and how he sees me.
I also think the walk-aways make certain plans to try and get their lives back in order and your wife stopping the divorce last minute will throw a huge wrench in her plans. Remember her goals for her future are very different from yours. She probably had to work up a lot of courage to walk away from you, and she is terrified to have to go through that situation again if you are just making temporary changes to “win her back”.
It does sound like your wife is going through a hard time in her life. Give her time and continue to be a good role model, and she will start to mirror you more and more.
By the way, my aunt and her husband also divorced. It took two years for them to reconcile which is the same amount of time as my friend. This is another example of time healing wounds. Time is really your best friend. Too bad it takes so much patience to endure.
P.S. My computer is still not fixed. I am at my sister's again.
