Hi Akron, Thanks for the post. No, I haven't tried flowers. I have sent notes/letters offering "ILY" and apologies. So far, she's merely holding onto them as evidence of my guilt and her right to a D. Yet, I think she's heard them at another level, too. Whether that's enough will play out over time, I guess.
I like the idea of changing things as often as possible. I won't be able to until I get the house in August, but I can do so in other ways, such as paying down the debt quickly at a level that surprises her.
Nice convos on the telephone. When she called again last night to let S5 say goodnight to me (they were on the road back from a TBall game), she said hello first before passing the phone, and joined the convo a bit in the background until S5 got irritated and said, "Mom! Stop innerruping!"
Genuine friendship is my focus with her for now. The romance and flowers will come later, and boy, am I ready to pour that on when the time is right. If given the opportunity, I will never slack in that area again.
