I know you are not giving up, and I hope that I didn't imply that. I won't be either. I have my moments where I lack conviction or direction, but, like you:
Quote: Martha, I really hope you are right, that the lack of true flat-out animosity means that she is starting to think about her role in our M problems. That is so very important, and not really present throughout our M. It is really hard for me to see how a depressed person can be so down on themselves for stuff - leading to low self-esteem, etc.. - yet so blaming of the partner for stuff in the M. Seems like a reversal there.
I see a lot of that in my sitch. I have hope that W sees another side of things, where we both were to blame for the problems in our M and finds a desire to begin a new, more balanced R.
Of course, I worry that the lack of animosity on my W's part is an indication that she is resigned to this and just wants to keep things cordial for the K's with no real expectations that there is any future for us besides being co-parents, as you said. W's statements to others about the possibility that we can remarry in the future gives me some hope, though.
