Thanks for stopping by. Bulldogr, my posting here doesn't mean that I'm giving up. I'm not trying to block the D, as W sees it as her solution for now. I'm just shifting definitions or focusn and really locking in on redeveloping our R. There will always be hope there.
Martha, I really hope you are right, that the lack of true flat-out animosity means that she is starting to think about her role in our M problems. That is so very important, and not really present throughout our M. It is really hard for me to see how a depressed person can be so down on themselves for stuff - leading to low self-esteem, etc.. - yet so blaming of the partner for stuff in the M. Seems like a reversal there.
Largo, the 'being friends' things is key. I'm working hard at it.
Nice note. W said that the new lights I put up in the kitchen were really nice and "so much better" than the prior ones. May that be true of our 'new' R as well! A very rare indirect compliment from her. Wish there were more, but I'll take what I can get!
A very rare indirect compliment from her. Wish there were more, but I'll take what I can get!