You guys who say "when I see something that needs 'fixing,' I like to go right for the solution," need to get a new idea of what a "solution" might be. Going right to sept 10 of a 10-step list of tasks might not be going for the "solution." The PROCESS might be the solution.
Let's say, for example, you and your W decide to learn to dance in order to be closer. What if you, as a fix-it person, could just wrinkle your nose and turn you and W into Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers? Which would bring you closer: a) suddenly knowing how to dance beautifully, or b) taking 10 weeks of lessons together.
In fixing some problems, process is everything. The end, when you get there, doesn't even matter anymore, because you've learned and grown so much from the process itself.
Maybe you don't have to become more mellow. Maybe you can just learn to focus on each step and see each step as a piece of the solution... like building a cathedral thoughtfully instead of just slapping those bricks down, one on top of the other.
