I absolutely agree with Lillie on this. If you go back through some of the posts of people on here who have had some success you'll find a common thread.....they got the ball rolling, they began to change things themselves, they changed their own behaviors.....you cannot wait for her, not if your M is important to you.
I understand the frustration of seeing your S do nothing, been there done that myself. I too had a spouse content w/the relationship, clueless to the problems. There was no way he was going to do what needed to be done (IMPOV) because he didin't view it as a problem....I did.
Don't wait on her, YOU get the ball of change rolling!
