FWIW...our C has NEVER told either of us (that I know of) to "just do it". Our current counselor hasn't even addressed sex yet...she's working with us more on our R, she firmly believes that sex will probably follow as a result of working on communication, learning what each other wants/needs etc.
Which....is what many, many other very smart people on this BB have also said.
You might take this approach with her....that it's true they MAY say what she thinks they will about sex, but then they may not...what do you have to lose with taking a few minutes a week and listening?
I also repeated several times to my H that if HE wasn't comfortable with the counselor we chose, that we would find another he was comfortable with. I think he needed the comfort factor of not feeling ambushed. This worked for me...your results may vary
