Trust me, the C won’t just tell your W to have sex with you.
I’m sure you haven’t read about my history, so let me give you a very brief synopsis. We had no sex before M and no sex for the first 11+ years of M. W then decided that she wanted a baby, something for which I had been campaigning for quite some time. We had sex two or three times, W got PG, and the sex stopped. A little over two years later, with still no sex, I was ready to bail out. We had more problems than you could shake a stick at. I was involved in an EA and had moved out, but we started going to Dr. Stettheimer.
Progress was slow, but I moved back in, and things got better. W refused to even discuss sex, but even without ever directly addressing that issue, wonder of wonders, we started having sex. It was still few and far between, but we were doing it for the first time ever (not counting her efforts to get PG). About the time I signed up here, there were lots of things going on. W was having female problems and went through an endometrial ablation and then a hysterectomy. I started going back to see Dr. Stettheimer on my own. He helped me and our R again without ever even talking to W. He helped me immensely in changing myself to better the R. We’re still not where I want us to be, but we’re now ML about once a week and our R has never been better.
As I said before, I’ll be glad to discuss this in more detail either here or privately. Just be aware that C will entail a lot more than “someone else telling [her] to have sex”.
