I do understand what you are saying. I still stand behind my statement to CeMar however...basically because....he's not even trying to win over her mind. And of course I make that statement based on the limited information and writing that he does here.
He could very well be trying things...but we here on the BB have no idea what he's tried or not tried. I truly do believe HE at the very least underestimates the power winning over a person's mind, especially a woman's mind (because I can't speak from the male perspective LOL.)
I have had guys tell me (sorry to sound conceited here) how gorgeous I am, or what a great body I have etc....and don't get me wrong, it's certainly nice to know these things....but that's only part of the sexual equation. A woman's mind is a complicated thing (yes, I admit that).
I can be complimented up one side and down the other about how I look...but if I'm treated like I'm some sort of an idiot, or like I'm just eye-candy...but don't listen to her, she doesn't know what she's talking about. You can guarantee...I'm not going to want to be having any type of sex with a guy like that.
I have dated & dumped men who did this to me. Yes, I'm a very pretty woman...I will go ahead and toot my own horn on this, but I also have a very quick quick brain and a sharp wit. While I do want to know my partner finds me physically attractive...I also need to know that he feels I contribute more than just sexual body parts to our R.
Unfortunately, I have a suspicion that this is how CeMar's W could be feeling. If she feels that all he wants from her is sex, that's likely to be a BIG turnoff.
Any other ladies want to chime in on this one? Shoot me down? Prop me up?
