You just decribed my wife perfectly. You have to realize that to fix this problem my take years. Not only are their all the relational problems to fix, but I personally believe that most of the LD problem is PHYSICAL. Testosterone is what causes desire, it is the ONLY chemical that cause desire. You have 20 times more testsoterone then she does. Then on top of this, between the ages of 20 and 40, a womens leve of testosterone is cut in half. Any slight problem with her body and the testosterone and your screwed (or should I say NOT screwed). Funny thing, your wife had no problem listing all the things that YOU need to do, and yet, you ask her to read a book about SSM and she balks big time. My guess is that she has no freaking clue as to what is wrong with her and she does not want to think of herself as abnormal. She suffers from arousal disorder, she enjoys sex, but she can not make herslf aroused. Same as my wife. They can not "Desire", and yet it is the "Desire" that is 100% of the problem. I have yet to see anyonw actually SOLVE this problem. Good Luck.
