Ohhhh, one other thing-this helped us out a lot too. When you are alone with your W try not to talk about the kids all of the time. Focus on the two of you or what is going on in the world. Act as if you are still dating. I found myself always talking about our D. This really drove my H crazy. Make time for just the 2 of you to do something together. Even if it is watching a movie at night after the kids go to bed or doing something over the weekend. See if you can't make your work schedules coinside with one anothers a little bit better. It sounds as if your R has just been taken for granted and the two of you have grown apart. She might be seeing some other appealing options out there so keep an eye on that. -Bananas
