That's exactly right. Get started there, read like crazy and then post here. We're here to support you. Biggest things to remember is patience and that time is your friend. Let your changes have time to take effect, don't expect immediate change. Remember she is trying to decide if these changes are permanent and if their effect has fixed it for her. She might be doubting your sincerity or commitment to the changes. She might be trying to decide if she is up to some necessary changes. So be patient, make your changes, follow the books.
One of the things I keep telling myself is that change will bring change. Your changes will bring change in your relationship, even if she is not even trying. She has to react to what you are doing. They explain it better in DR. So set some "baby step" goals, prepare to work, and then get it done. Don't let any challenges get you thrown off course. Decide your going to make things happen and that your in it for the long haul.
From experience I will say the road might seem long but it can be done. I am not done traveling the road, but I can see the ground I've covered and the goal is not too far off. Work on yourself and let the rest follow.
