of course I burst the romantic bubble (only temporarily) when H brought up the subject of birth control which led me directly into a series of questions about what birth control he had used with OW and whether or not he had ever considered HIV/STD which led somehow to my anger about skiing holiday. whoops!
Confessions from H They had talked about children - she wanted them. He had never considered HIV/STD and thought using condoms when she was fertile adequate (in spite of me getting pregnatnt three times via this method) He thought he was going to live happily ever after with her. He lied about shagging her before he left me then apologised for lying. He said he hadn't realised how controlling and manipulative OW was (at least I am only bossy and controlling) and that he didn't think she was entirely blameless. OW is nuts. She moved her live-in bf of 5 years out for H.
H's comment after this exchange was that our R wouldn't work if he was consumed with guilt and I was angry. We then spoke brifly about his letter.
After that it was back to romance as normal. I had a lovely 46th birthday, he took me out for dinner (the first time for 6 years) and he left the following day.
And we continue in loving texts and brief daily phone convos. My best gf thinks I should never mention what has gone before and just work on now. in many ways I think she is rightbut will it really all fade away? I just have to see a pair of skiing goggles to have heart palpitations - even after he has fessed up to miserable week.
