Hello midip - Greetings from the same side of the pond I have been a lurker here, and sense a turning point.
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I've been thinking about asking H to take on financial responsibility for family (thanks to Wendy) when he is back full time. The day before his departure he asked me all sorts of questions like how much the mortgage was etc which clearly indicated that he had no idea. Also meal planning. I am not going to ask right now but I like the idea of separating the individual jobs involved in running a family.

Sharing chores and errands was the best thing I got going since the bomb. I find fewer reasons to 'chase' for closure, he now knows what it feels like to 'own' a problem. Not that it was an easy transition, bcuz well, things are just not done the same way are they? But well worth the extra rolls of duct tape while he fumbles through the logistics of life.

Slowly

A Liberal Allowance of Time