So, is your H gone now? Let's have an update! Regarding ignoring that anything ever happened vs. exploding with anger vs. chalking it up and forgetting about it, I think it's best left un-talked about at the moment. When you have slipped into more of a regular routine might be a good time to say, very gently and using "I" statements, that you feel that one day you'd like to talk to him about everything, and you want to make sure you're both comfortable, and you don't want either of you to feel blamed, and ask him how he feels about talking. Let him know that you want to heal (not rehash), and it's important to you that things are in the open and dealt with at some point. Tell him it doesn't have to be NOW, or even soon, but that you'd like him to start thinking about when he might feel comfortable talking.
