My two cents...move goal #1 to the bottom of your goal list...IMHO (and, well, actually experience) "R talks" are just as backsliding during piecing as any other time...not saying you necessarily NEVER want to talk about stuff, why things happened, etc, but I would definitely suggest focusing on goals 2, 3 and 4 in particular...get the good vibes back really strongly in the household...it creates an open environment that may help later communication.
OTOH, I don't know much about your sitch so I could just be offbase but maybe see how things go a bit first and then experiment? Also, it has amazed me how things do get communicated even w/o "formal" R talks.
Sage
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