Just a little update----Yesterday through email (he emailed first) I told H I was going to the store after work and asked if he needed anything and told him I was going to Willies to get margurita (bad day at work). So he called on the way home and asked where I was. I told him I had just pulled in at the store. He said you going to eat. I said I don't know. He said it was a good idea he would meet me there. So I am at the store . S wanders away (which he never does) I look for him and he comes back with 2 balls. (now I am thinking this is something H would do, the old H anyway). Sure enough, I find H lurking around a corner, smiling. It was nice that he joined us. He used to things like that all the time, surprise me with just showing up out of the blue.