Quote: Anyway, he read it. He said he was putting the brakes on his R with ow but it was like stopping a train, it would take a while (he gave no details and I didn't ask). He said if he let the train just crash, it would have a ripple effect and he was trying to avoid that.
I know how hard it is to try and understand why they cant just say it's over and be done with it - I dont understand the lingering either, but I know it seems like it does take a long time, like they have to burn themselves out it all. I guess that is where our patience has to come in at. But at least he's acknowledging to you that he is ending it.
The only advice I can give on that is he may go thru a withdrawl stage, I found this the best time to back off and really keep up my PMA - not look for reassurances from him or bring up any of "my" concerns. This is one of those times when it's all about "them" and when things can seem their most confusing..............just remain positive!!!!
Quote: Sometimes it feels like he is DBing me. He has been different at home--definately not as angry, really positive and happy. I guess I am wondering if it is all real.
I understand your wondering if it's real or not - being scared that it may be all an act, I think it's a normal feeling. I'm sure at times it may even seem so sugar-coated it makes you ill. But it is a positive, and it's an effort on his part, it's one of those things that you need to look and realize that your hard work and goals are paying off - it's baby steps for them too. Like us they get discouraged if they think their efforts arent being taken seriously.
I know your very confused right now and you are struggling with yourself wondering if it's all worth it. So from someone on the outside - who's in your shoes and keeping up with your posts, I can tell you I see alot of positives coming from your H and that your efforts are making a differance everyday! So keep your focus on the positive!
