Quote: I kind of gave him a timeline. I repeated to him that I would not be dealing with this during the summer. So he has until then unless I decide to leave before then.
Kind of goes against your goal of being patient! Do not think about it in terms of you having to 'deal' with it...you don't, you have to detach and take care of yourself. Your H has to deal with it...I know it is easier said than done but focus on you and your kids...plan a family vacation (come visit me! ) if H comes great, if he doesn't his loss.
Your H has no intention of leaving you, (mine either) I know you don't want to live like this but if you want your marriage to work you may have to live in limbo for a while. Read what Sage posted to JVKB...it makes so much sense.
Keep asking yourself this question: Will what I'm doing bring me closer to my goals? If the answer is no than stop doing it!
You will make it through this and you will be a stronger person because of it.
) if H comes great, if he doesn't his loss. 