You are so normal..At four months my H came home..It wasn't time but we are all different. He didn't end it with other woman..Just saw this as an oppurtinuty to see what it was like back at home..He ended it in a way but told her he would "try" coming home..In his mind, he wasn't ready, and neither was I..
Anyway, as I said they are ALL different. It is so great your H wants to come home. As for the OW thing, yeah, he will be grieving. Don't put a lot of pressure on him. Listen, validate, and go punch your pillow if you have to. Just question him too much..I KNOW HOW HARD THAT IS!
As for you being ready? I know, it's such a hard call. In your heart, you will know. It is easier moving on and not dealing with this rollercoaster.. But, in the end, it will all be worth it!
My sitch is somewhat similar-
H- just turned 40 Me - 36 Two kids S - 9 D - 7 Dropped the bomb 9/04 Came back xmas and beginning of Feb.
Now my H is like the walking dead..Always in a fog..Yet, he is seeing the kids more and more. As for me, I have been keeping my guard up. He makes little innuendos about wanting to come home, go away together, etc..But I need for him to show me that he wants to, not just talk about it. But that's just me..
Be happy, Sherry..Most of the people on these BB's would be so excited to have this opportunity given to you. See the good in your situation, but I know how hard it is. Praise yourself for doing such a great job DBing..
