I have not posted on this board for a long time, and was very happy to see this site. I am not ready to jsut "let go". I truly believe that my ex and I have a chance.
Quick story, Married 27 years wehn he left. gone for a year and a half before he filed for the D. It was final in Jan. I have remained civil to him, he on the other hand has not. I want to maintain a friendship, and he says he does also, but does not show that. We have had dinner together, did our taxes together, and had a great time. But after he leaves, I don't hear from him again, I am the one who inititates any conversation. Although, I was very surprised that he wanted to do taxes together. We each filed separate, but went to the same place we have gone for years.
He is blaming me that he has to pay $4000.00 in taxes this year. I am the reason he didn't call our daughter on her birthday. But on the other hand he will give me a kiss and a hug when he sees me. It can be a bit confusing. At one point I felt he was really struggling with his decisions.
Yes, I am still hopeful. I love this man and do not want to give up on us yet. He has been seeing someone, that is whey he left. He denies seeing her before he left, but the signs show differently.
Anyone who has any experience with getting back together after a D please let me know if I'm chasing a dream, or if there is really any hope for a reconciliation.
My preacher told me once that it only becomes impossible after they get remarried. Of course a serious relation ship with another makes it nearly impossible, but there is still a glimmer of hope. I will probably hold out some type of hope until I find someone else or, she gets remarried. Thats just my reality.
