He's leaving

[sage]

I was a bit stunned when saw the advice to have hopes and expectations....I think most of us here try not to, say we don't but of course we all do. You have been spending so much time obsessing and dwelling and overanalyzing what you want and what your H wants it's like you are numb.

I'm sorry if what I said was confusing. I agree that getting wrapped up in "hopes" and "expectations" is NOT a good thing and if I conveyed otherwise, ugh!!! What I was reacting to was what I felt was J's pretty negative assessment of the current situation which, to me, felt more positive than not.

Let me reiterate a more positive, solution based approach keep expectations low but set positive (but of reachable sized!) goals!

Sage