As usual, Sage comes through with her words of wisdom. Honestly I think that Sage is right on here. Your H is telling you in his actions, he wants to be there, he wants to be happy with YOU! All along you were dreading his coming home because you were unsure of how to react towards H. He showed you how to react, HAPPY! He initiated alot of affection and at first I would of been taken aback by it as well, but after the first initiation I would of been metling inside and excited to have made it that. I do find it strange that since H wanted to talk about the R that you didnt. That is fine because as Sage said dont talk, do! But in my house, H NEVER wants to talk, so if he initiated R talk I would most certainly listen. Not talk, listen! Not that things get magically fixed here, but this is a huge positive for you. If you want to work on your marriage that is. And you wouldnt be here on this board if you did not want to work on your marriage right? I think that is everyones ultimate goal here, work on ourselves and our marriages will follow right.
I agree with Sages opinion on the phone calls. He is constantly trying to get you on the phone and you dont respond. Yes miss a phone call or two, not them all. Well H is there right now, and now is the time to refocus your goals. Have you identified some of the things in your M that you did that caused its demise? I know when I looked at myself I did find little things that probably snowballed into big things for H. I changed them for me, and you know what I am a better person for it regardless of what happens with H. What are some of the things you can do to create a positive R with H? You have a new opportunity here JV - Take it..
