He's leaving

[sage]

Stop discussing the relationship and stop making decisions for your H. The onus has to be on him to act, not on you to prompt him to act. I am telling you that you have a history of back and forth from what I've read, and the path you're on will not bring you closer to your goals, but does seem to be furthering you from them.

For your own happiness' sake, back off and stop the pattern.

Let me just add one thing to NY's good advice to you...stop TALKING about how the M can be better and start MAKING it better. Telling h about how it could be and how forgiveness can work, etc, etc, is just an R talk...but ACTIONS (make it better, forgive, be consistent, etc), now those will make a difference!

You don't need h to "agree"...just do it.

Sage