Another goal I would like to achieve is H asking me how MY day went (I'll have to refine this and make it more solution/action-based). Everytime we talk, he never asks me how I'M doing. It's always "WHAT are you doing?"!
Why not treat the question that h asks "What are you doing?" as the question you're hoping he'll ask "How are you doing?"?
I think you're just experiencing a pretty common communication difference (men focus on action, women on feelings, to generalize) and wishing it were different is probably a cheeseless tunnel.
He probably thinks that he's been asking the "right" question all along!
Sage
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