About the moving thing, JV, really, really think about what YOU want. A change of scenery won't make your H happy or change things. He has to choose to be happy and only he can make that happen. Just like only you can make you happy, it applies to H too.
We moved and not even a year later my H had the A. I am not the controlling one in the R; he is. I moved away from family, friends, church, and a secure, happy work environment. H would have loved to move out of state but I did put my foot down and say no to that. Boy, I am I glad I did. We only moved about an hour away from where we were. I can't imagine going through this without my mom and best friend. They both live in the town we moved from. But, there are so many times I wished I was back where we used to live during all this. I have felt so alone so many times here.
H wasn't happy with our R, not where he lived. I think the A would have happened no matter where we lived.
I don't mean to put a damper on things, but I know how hard this is with family and close friends far away ( and I am only talking an hour away). But you just can't go visit your friend when you want when a 2 hour round trip is involved. My mom always watched the kids but can't as much now. So... please think about this. I would make sure your R is on steady ground before I picked up and moved. Just my opinion.
