Yes, I was ASSuming, wasn't I? That's always been the main assumption for me in our R, and it always seemed to follow a disagreement. I never could get it. Somehow things would be tense between us, and before I knew it, H was calling me on the phone asking me to do something for him, and he was always being nice about it. I can hear myself right now in my responses to H. When he'd ask me, "Can you do that for me please?", I'd usually say, "Uh-huh" or "(small sigh)...Yeah." I held onto grudges for too long.
How interesting! Sounds like "asking w for a favor" is h's way of signalling a truce...I think Michele calls these "truce triggers". THAT could be a great ASSumption when it happens again. "Ah, h is asking me for a favor. He must be hoping that our argument is over and that we've moved passed it. What a good guy!"
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
