He's leaving

[sage]

Should I have not told H that I went out? I was only being honest. I feel like he thinks it's ok when he wants to go out, but when I want to, NOOOOO! Not without H at least. Before the bomb dropped, H was ALWAYS going out to do things WITHOUT ME. I used to complain alot about it, but when I realized it never helped anything, I stopped. He would go out all the time (doing who knows what), and I would stay home all the time. Now whenever I go out without H, I'm made to feel like the bad guy. Like I'M doing something wrong! Sometimes I just feel like telling him, "Look - you had it YOUR way for 4 months. Now it's MY turn." BUT, of course, I won't. I will sit here and keep my mouth shut as usual.

What if you viewed this as a sign of his fear as opposed to some way to just make you mad? I think I mentioned before that my h seemed quite worried after his a that I might "retaliate". I don't think it's an uncommon fear.

I don't think you need to stop going out or lie to h...but perhaps being a bit more reassuring to him would be helpful?

Sage