When I said that I have been in those shoes, mainly with things that have been said in serious conversations that he wouldnt let go of. One in particular was when we were being intimate with each other during the summer, IN October in a fight I made a comment about it being ok to sleep with me and talk to her and he never let go of it. We havent been together since . He said it isnt right since he is so confused. I said, it can only bring us closer not farther apart. Other things that happened that he wont let go of is I opened a bank account a year ago, and he recently found out about it. I truly forgot that I had it (was being mailed to my parents house...literally had no money in it) and every time we get into a fight he brings it up like I was being sneaky. SNEAKY - pot calling the kettle black huh? Stuff like that. I have written many letters to H during all of this, but mainly talking about how our lives are too good to pass up. I have written a goodbye letter and he has never found it.
Dont worry about this set back...Your H is taking the steps to work on your R, accept this for what it was a set back. Things will be better when he is back home and you can see him face to face. It would be a good thing to leave him another message in a few days if you dont hear from him, no mention of that letter, just a missing you..So that he starts to put that letter behind him too. The truth is, you probably do look at him differently now, it is only human nature to do so...But when things start to get better for you there will be more good memories than bad and those feelings will start to fade. I tell myself that everyday...My problem is my H wont stop talking to his OW, so my good memories get shattered every day knowing that she is STILL in his life (even tho it is so far away).
. He said it isnt right since he is so confused. I said, it can only bring us closer not farther apart. Other things that happened that he wont let go of is I opened a bank account a year ago, and he recently found out about it. I truly forgot that I had it (was being mailed to my parents house...literally had no money in it) and every time we get into a fight he brings it up like I was being sneaky. SNEAKY - pot calling the kettle black huh? Stuff like that. I have written many letters to H during all of this, but mainly talking about how our lives are too good to pass up. I have written a goodbye letter and he has never found it. 
