JV, My H did the same thing after he dropped the bomb and decided to tell me all the things he thought were wrong with the marriage. Most of them included me telling him what to do when it came to money, the house, kids, etc.. That is just so ridiculous. I paid the bills when he got paid because I looked at it as a household chore and to be honest, I actually enjoyed it. (When we only had 5 bucks after bills early in our marriage it wasn't so fun So by doing this, I looked at it like I was "earning my keep" and not bothering him with it. Just one less thing he needed to worry about. Just like with the kids. There is no way he could juggle getting the kids where they need to be on a daily basis and still hold a job. OH YEAH!! That's what he expects ME to do once he moves into his little rathole above the garage. I'm actually starting to look forward to it. Tired of the sneaking around checking his messages. (Not me checking his, HIM checking to see if OW has text him) I guess I take it as a slap in the face when he does it and lies to me about what he went into the garage for. I would love to know if he REALLY thinks I'm that stupid and he's getting away with something, or he just is a bastard for not caring whether I know what he's doing or not. I'm frustrated too JV. Hang in there.