JV, I feel so much better knowing how insane someone else's H can be!!! My H told me 2 weeks ago that he would be moving out over the next 2 weeks - that date came, no boxes, no moving. I know I should probably think of that as a positive, but all I can think are 1. He told me when he dropped the bomb in November - or rather, when I MADE him drop the bomb - that he had been planning to tell me in May that he was leaving - so I think that instead of moving on the schedule that I sort of forced him into, he's just planning to stick to his original schedule and leave in May - OR 2. He just got a generous fellowship to grad school that includes housing/housing stipend, so he's just waiting until the fall to take advantage of that - OR 3. He's just too lazy and procrastinates too much to want to bother packing up all his rooms full of books and he could go on forever just living separately from me in the same house.
In the meantime, I want to end at least this hurt and "pre-emptively strike" to kick him out, so that I'm not crushed one day to come home and find that he's moved without telling me. At the same time, I think that if I force the issue he'll just move in with OW and I would have "pushed him into her arms."
Goodness. Anyway, thank you for being a role model to me with the way that you're handling yourself!
