He's leaving

[sage]

H told me earlier today that he might drive to Oregon tomorrow to give his car back to the original owner (a co-worker). H was making payments on it. H said he's giving it back because it IS a constant reminder of the A (OW has been in it).

Wow! How positive! You had mentioned that you wouldn't get in the car...and now here's h acknowledging the intrusion of the car in your lives! Excellent!

H also said he's leaving for AZ in a couple of days. He will be gone for at least a week, possibly two weeks. He said he wants to use this time to see if things will be any better when he returns. I don't see how things can be much better in that short amount of time at all!

Before things can get better "forever" they have to get better for a day, a week, a month, etc. It's one step at a time no matter how think it should go.

I really wish that I could convince you to take a hiatus and just view "doing nothing" as a perfectly ok way to handle things for the time being. (where "doing nothing" means not pushing for answers or action). It's a very powerful thing to just "go with it" for some time.

You have a lot of positives in your sitch, believe it or not. Why not let them settle in a bit in order to get you closer to your goals?

Sage