The boys are at my MIL's. They went there to color eggs with Grandma as they do every year. H called her to let her know he would be picking the boys up around 7:30pm. H gets there, but the boys wanted to stay the night, so he let them.
H got home after 8pm. He told me the kids wanted to stay with MIL, blah blah blah. H said he was there at his mom's for 40 minutes or so (this is RARE - he never likes to be there for more than 10 or 15 minutes). His voice became very shaky. I asked what was wrong, and H said MIL was making him feel guilty. I said, "What do you mean?....Did you tell her?" H said he told her about everything (his A, his unhappiness and confusion, etc) like a month and a half ago. H asked her not to say anything to me about it. I asked how was MIL making him feel guilty. H said she felt it was very important for us to show up at his grandparents' house for Easter. H's grandmother's health has been going downhill rapidly over this past year. Among many things, her kidneys are failing. MIL feels that H's grandmother may not have too much time left. Also, MIL expressed her deep concern for how this (possible D) will affect the kids. H said she kept saying things like "this is YOUR FAMILY, what is wrong with you?, can't you work on it (M)?, etc, etc." H said his mom was nearly in tears. He didn't tell me what he said to her, if anything, but he said he left before the kids could see him cry. I didn't know what to say. I was pretty much silent. I was thinking, "Thank you, MIL!" Sorry. It just felt somewhat good that somebody else was able to say something to H, but now I'm feeling that was bad. It probably just put more pressure on H. I'm sure that wasn't MIL's intention.
H was here for about an hour. I ran to the store to get more Pedialyte for the baby. He left to go play cards shortly after I returned and said I could call him if I needed. H said he's going to take S9 and S5 to play mini-golf and bowling tomorrow (the boys' favorite things to do). H gave me a couple of hugs before leaving. He asked me to wait up for him.....Ummm, I'll try, but if anyone out there is familiar with poker playing, you and I both know how long he could be gone.
Thanks for listening.
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
