I hope you don’t mind my butting in…But I was reading your thread and wanted to say that at this point your H’s indecision on moving out is exactly that…INDECISION. My H had come to me in Jan & told me that he was moving out (I know now that it was because he was planning a trip to OK to see OW) so I couldn’t say anything other than I had hoped that he wouldn’t. For weeks he was planning his departure. It was perfect timing because his sister was moving out of a makeshift apt in his mothers house in a few weeks. So for weeks he was helping sister out at her new place, painting his apartment. So as I saw the days drawing near, I tried to stay out of his way and not question anything he was doing. Then the day I thought he was actually leaving was the day he was taking his trip. We had a heart to heart before him leaving and then we he came home from trip he came HOME. He has since threatened that he is leaving, but hasn’t. So to make a long story short, even tho H is planning his departure, it doesn’t mean that he is actually going to do it. Don’t you dare mention it. Don’t pack for him. I did that when I kicked H out when first finding out about OW. I actually packed his things. You know if he is not happy then he should pack his OWN things, not you do it for him. I am not sure from reading your posts that H is actually going to leave. Just a guess on my part.
Not knowing your entire sitch, forgive me for asking, has H ended it with OW? Mine still has not, and it appears to still be going strong. I am at odds as to what to do, but intend to just hold tight for a few days until I can clearly make up my mind.
