Quote: First, the effects of counselling may be felt over a long period of time. Second, the spouse who does not initiate the counselling needs to be ready to listen to what the C has to say. It may be valuable to drag an unwilling spouse to a counsellor, but you may have to wait some time before cashing in.
I agree with the LOOOONG time statement if it also hase some action or small behavior changes thrown in. I think just using time might not work in many cases. To me it would be get the kids out of the marriage bed and then maybe in 6 months W will se it was a good change.
Re; I can't get the idea of "Vitamin P" out of my head. Paul, did you see the movie "Boys in the Hood" One boy (football player) was living at home but had his girlfriend living there too. Another guy (recently out of jail), commented to the (football guy) He was lucky because he had in-house "P". It was so funny when I heard it.
I was working in a deliquent boys grouphome at the time. The boys were mostly junior criminals that were what we called "wana-bees", refering to wanting to be real bad gang members. The boy's real lives were not too far off from the movie.
