Just wanted to check in with you after a few months hiatus from the board. I'm really happy for you. I'm not that surprised, really. It seemed that you were doing all the right things and continued to communicate with your W, even if that communicating was difficult at times.
My W and I have sex about once a month. The first time, around November, she initiated, but I have done so each time since. I would love it the frequency to increase, but I rarely have the panic that I used to feel that I was stuck in a loveless marriage. Nowadays, when we argue, it rarely spirals into excessive anger. Perhaps I have lost some of the resentment that I previously felt, so I know when to shut up.
Once, when I was making my moves in the bed, she said, "You don't pay attention to my breasts any more." There is a message I heard loud and clear. I'll make sure she doesn't have that concern any time soon.
Even though I haven't posted in a while, I have been having pretend conversations about my M with all my friends here on the BB. That may sound kind of weird, I know. It's therapeutic, though.
