Good for you, annette! More reflections on the sense of ivigoration I felt over the weekend. I was like super-hubby, cleaning, errand-running, handyman stuff, etc. So I mentioned this to a friend of mine and he said that I got a dose of "Vitamin P." Now, not that I'm the type of guy to repeat "locker room" talk, but I have to admit, it actually felt like I'd received some sort of transfusion (I know, SHE was the one, not me).
As most of us know, this sense of energy tends to fade, and fairly quickly, too. Could I have suggested to her that we do it again, say, Sunday afternoon? Of course. But did I feel a despair-filled sense of gloom because I had been "without" for almost 48 hours? No.
I'm not under any illusions here. I know that the next event may be months away. But I'm still happy about this time.
HD...this is really great news...your W's defenses came down, you will be working with the therapist, and you are now on your way towards a regular sex life.
Hairy, I get all pumped up on Vitamin P, myself. I feel much more energetic and productive. This has nothing to do with my H..or feeling like I'm trying to "repay" him, although I think he took it that way for a long time. I think now he just realizes that this is a by-product of sex for me. I also get this way after drinking lots of Vitamin C (coffee, the other most important chemical in my life, lol) but it doesn't feel nearly as good to place the cold ceramic coffee cup to my lips as it does to place the...well, I trust you know where I'm going with this.
Glad you had a nice weekend. My personal philosophy with my H is to keep striking while the iron is hot. I think you shoulda gone for it on Sunday, and today..etc. If I give him time to wind down, then he gets in "leave me alone" mode and I have to wait for his natural horniness to kick in. If I go for it, he seems to still be on a high from the night before and re-remembering all the sexy stuff we did and it gets him going again.
However, he is a man and this tactic might not work at ALL for an LDW.
Honeypot, off to devour some Vitamin EC. (extra credit points for anyone who can guess what this once-a-year vitamin is...)
Ahhhh, I see that I am going to have to up the difficulty quotient on my riddles for you, grasshopper. You nailed that one as soon as you read it, evidently.
I think that Vitamin P is keeping your brain sharp, too.
Perhaps that's what is the matter with me...the lackanookie has become so long lasting that now I can't even come up with a decent stumper.
hairy, what was her attitude over the weekend? I must admit I had several... um... negative thoughts about your happy event. One of them was: is she going to say, "Well, you got laid, so stop saying I'm not interested in sex. Now back off." Or does she want to use this as a reason to stop counseling, as in, "He dragged me here because we weren't having sex. We had sex. So now we can stop." OR do you really think there was a tiny but fundamental change in her?
Her attitude was basically normal. She didn't mention the sex during the rest of the weekend. She didn't use it as a "quid pro quo" (e.g. I did this, now fix the xyz). And she wasn't any more or any less physical during the weekend, either.
I doubt that she will use it as reason not to go to counseling. One thing counseling has shown us is that there is a lot more going on than just no sex.
Face it, Lillie. You're just jealous. I know you've been hot for me for a long time.
Quote: I'm not under any illusions here. I know that the next event may be months away. But I'm still happy about this time.
Hairdog
HD,
Just wanted to point out to you that you have to think about the attitude you give off at home. Don't go around projecting the image that you are a grateful pup who was thrown a bone by Mama dog ( ok, I suck at analogies but hopefully you get what I mean). You have to act like this is normal stuff...be da man.
I don't think you should have gone for it this weekend...you are working with a counselor, and let it all settle. But in the meantime, don't act all groveling, like it won't happen again...be confident, strong, etc. Got it?
