Quote: You've got good impression management skills.
This is very insightful. I know because I am also someone with good impression management skills. OTOH, saying someone has good impression management skills is just another way of saying they are wimpy because having good impression management skills is just a subtle way of being a braggart which is an obvious defensive mechanism.
What I might recommend for HD is something I occasionally do myself which is to consider letting yourself be the "bad guy", not because you want to be gracious and allow your wife to be the "good guy" but just because it can be really relaxing to be the "bad guy" for a change. What's the worst that can happen? Everybody will hate you and think you are an evil morally corrupt loser who is unwilling to do the work necessary to preserve the sanctity of your long term romantic relationship and will probably sink ever lower into a wretched pool of seeking only to fulfill his base desires at the expense of all those who touch his life? So what? At least you might get laid for a change.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
