I too don't have any good advice for you, other than a "stand your ground -- what do you have to lose?" pile-on.
Although we have never (yet) gone together to MC, I can only IMAGINE how much my W would squirm about these very same things. About a month ago, we did go together to talk to a C about our daughter's weight loss, and she was apoplectic! "What are you going to say?" "Why are you going to phrase it THAT way?" "That makes me sound like a bad mother!" etc., etc.
Stuck pigs squeal; for the sake of your marriage, bring your stickers.
Hugs, (you know, a GUY hug, one of those strong, slap-you-on-the-back, not-too-close ones, not any sort of a GAY hug or anything... not that there's anything wrong with that mind you . . .)
