Well, I did confront her about the "confidentiality" issue. She mentioned something about the conversation we had last night, and the MC asked me what my take was. I turned to W and said, "I have no idea what I'm supposed to say. I don't know what is allowed and what isn't." W looked clueless, and I just kind of let it pour out. I stated that MC isn't our friend, that she is a paid professional; that if I had symptoms of AIDS but just mentioned to my doc that I had sprained my ankle, he wouldn't be able to help me, and that I thought I needed to be able to tell MC everything.
I don't have much time to write, so I'll just sum it up and say that I got the issue on the table, that W realizes that I'm not trying to make her out to be the bad guy, that MC is trying to help both of us, and that I think I did a pretty good job of un-hamstringing myself. Yes, I just made up that word.
Thanks for the words of encouragement from everyone. It's all a process, right? No one ever said it would be easy.
Hairdog
W said that she didn't want me to tell MC "her" stories, that it was her role to tell these stories and that she thought I was trying to make W out to be the bad guy, to ally MC against her. MC explained that she would never do that, that she didn't think that was my intent, and that she understood why W might not fully trust her yet.
This led to a discussion of W's demons (thanks, CeMar) and how we needed to address those, and why W slips into patterns of
