Great progress from H!!! I guess what Michelle says in DB/DR is right...If the person that always did something (ie: take care of the kids) stops doing those things, it forces the other S to pick up the slack. I've tried that with H and the house cleaning, and it never worked. H could care less if our house is messy...LOL
Its ok to spend time apart, and do your own thing, and him do his...But when you do meet up and settle in for the night it should be a nice thing...Hey H, so how was your day?
We did separate things pretty much all weekend. That's okay. I think H needs space right now. He was not as moody!! I am hoping me not reacting and being kind is helping.
Sunday, he came to church again. After he asked what was for lunch (meaning--where are we going). I had plans with my mom and explained what we were doing. He said okay, have fun. When I returned home, he wasn't home yet. Now, before I would have called, texted or something and worried what he was doing. Yesterday I didn't do either. He came home and I didn't question where he had been. He did ask how long have you been home.
Last night he was playful. He suggested finishing a movie we had started watching (we fell asleep LOL) on Saturday night.
I suggested last night and he said yes, let me get cleaned up first!! He seemed more into it than before. Still not where I want it to be but it is slowly getting there.
I think that its great that H is being playful I really feel that all of this is looking good for you. You are DBing well and its amazing how strong you can be...I hope I get there someday..lol! You are an amazing woman...remember that always. I am here for you.!
I think we all are amazing, this journey we are on changes you, but for the better.
Well, H is moody. I believe he is getting depressed because he is pulling away from ow.
H has some books that he bought long ago-- Freedom From Depression and an Anger Workbook. He has pulled these out and has been reading them again. I think that is a good thing.
H was feeling down tonight (could tell by how he was acting). He decided to go on a bike ride. I gave him a hug before he left. He hugged back and held on for a minute. Then, he called while he was gone. We have a mother fox and her babies that live in our subdivision. He called to tell me he saw one of the babies. We hadn't seen them in awhile. So, that was a nice surprise, I didn't expect to hear from him on his ride.
I am doing well on not reacting and being loving. I tell you, I feel good right now. I think that is helping.
Last night in convo, don't remember why he said this but, he said, in 15 years you will probably be changing my diapers. He has a bad back, needs surgery. He thinks he is getting old. He is only 40. The comment shocked me at first. Thoughts were rushing through my head like-- do you realize what you just said, do you think we will be together in 15 years and so on. But, of course, I didn't say that. I just joked about it and let it go.
Hmmm... I know, I know -- don't dwell on it but it does make you wonder.
last night and he said yes, let me get cleaned up first!! He seemed more into it than before. 
Still not where I want it to be but it is slowly getting there.
...LOL