For her to receive forgiveness, she must show true Remorse, she must Repent and most importantly, take Responsibility for her actions... Really, I'm not bitter
Sounds like you're going to a "christian" counselor as that's always the recipe given for forgiveness based on the Bible.
I'd like to ponder on some things. For you to truly move forward, you'll have to let go of the hurt, and not let what she did hurt you anymore. It goes to where it becomes a memory, but without pain.
Now, you can do that without her showing remorse. But if you let go of the hurt and say it's not going to hurt you anymore, so that you can really truly heal, does that mean you've somehow forgiven her in some way?
Indeed, she may never show remorse. If she doesn't, does that mean you carry a resentment or a hurt or a grudge for the rest of your life, since you're carrying this "unforgiveness" with you, which is bitterness?
If you are going to a faith based counselor, my question is this. While dying, Christ asked God to forgive the people mocking him. Though he said they didn't know what they were doing (meaning that they were mocking the messiah promised them in scripture and in fact was there fulfilling prophecy right before their very eyes, indeed their own actions at that moment were prophesied about), the crowd were adults, and not idiots, and sure knew enough that their behavior wasn't very nice and proper and improperly thought themselves entitled to act that way somehow for whatever reason they gave themselves for it... much like a WAS.
So, those folks didn't show remorse, repent or take responsibility for their actions, yet they were scripturally forgivable. How so?
