You are a better person than I. I can't begin to think of forgiving my W for what she has done. My MFT talks about the "3 R's". For her to receive forgiveness, she must show true Remorse, she must Repent and most importantly, take Responsibility for her actions.
Now maybe that doesn't sound very "DB-Correct" but I think I can still feel good about myself without forgiving her. I don't need to forgive her in order for me to feel complete.
I'm proud of you that you are strong enough and feel it in your heart to forgive him. He has shown that he has taken steps to earn, or deserve your forgiveness. My W hasn't even come near the "3 R's". She's not even in the neighborhood!
