Sherry,

I know this is tough. My sitch was never quite as extreme considering there was no PA but....my H did move out. I know you've read some of my posts and there were a lot of days where i was wondering why the hell I was sticking around and I knew I deserved better, somebody that really loved me. We still have a long way to go but things are much better now, as a matter of fact I told my SIL that I'm starting to feel like my H likes me again.

You keep pressuring yourself with a timeframe, I did the same thing...this has to be resolved before I move, before we put the house on the market. Go back to what you were doing before the "move."

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as long as I keep my emotions in check everything is fine. His reactions (extreme ones anyway) are usually in response to me.



This goes back to things not feeling natural, but you have to continue to focus on you and make yourself happy. Get back to the gym, not that I know first hand but I hear that excercise relieves stress and I know it will help you feel and look better.

You are #1, take care of you. If you don't take care of you it is hard to take care of your kids and they need you!

I always feel better when I list the positives. Hopefully he will follow through with counseling and you guys can move forward.

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