H is back

[BethJ]

Hi Sherry,

My sitch in brief is under Piecing - New Here and Question.... (I don't know how to link either).

As for your H not noticing things, do you believe him? Sometimes I think my H pretends he doesn't just to be contrary. You know, to hold on to his justifications. If he truly is not noticing and you have the energy, just keep plugging along and maybe try something new. For me, if I detatch, it is worse with H because he says I've always been distant. The best times we've had in years were the immediate weeks after the bomb, when I was clingy, sobbing all the time and all over him. Go figure. Now I am in major detatch mode because it is true, it is my nature. I can't stand to be in the same room with him lately so avoid him. I know this doesn't help and I am fighting every impulse to be nasty. Tonight, I purposely didn't tell him where we'd be, knowing he's been getting home at 4:30, and I was out 'til 7. Do you know he did not even bother to see where I was until 6:20? This man knows how to GAL, while I wait around for him like a whipped dog. To make matters worse, I checked the caller ID and he never called to say he was on his way home, which has been our agreement of late (so I can time him and know where he is for sure). I found a receipt for dinner, and I know it was with his friend who is leaving work this Friday for another job, but he NEVER used to do that kind of thing without telling me before. It's like he's pushing any button he can (we had a major R talk last night in which I said I may be leaving this weekend).

Anyway, this is your thread, not mine! Sorry!! Isn't this just the craziest thing you can ever imagine happening in your life? What a nightmare!!

Try and have a good night! My H is mowing our 5 acres, so I won't have to deal with him for hours and then it will be bedtime, which means my back is turned and he doesn't care!!
I'll check in tomorrow. I'm semi-addicted!!

Beth