Nah, I think you'll be ok. If your changes were easy, as you say, you'll keep 'em up. Wow, when you said that OW is terrified of losing your H, i think that my H's OW has a hold on him now, and I know for a fact that he may have wanted to exit the R with her, But it took her YEARS to get up enough courage to D her H (he beat her and emotionally abused her for years) Now she is hanging on to my H as her support, protector, and friend.If her H came around yelling, she'd call my H before she'd call the police. Maybe he feels that he took her away from her 'security' no matter how screwed up it was and now he is obligated to care for her. Your H may very well not know how to extract himself from this without hurting her. This may sound strange, but thats a good thing. Means he is a human that realizes he has impacted someone elses life. Means that maybe he won't repeat this again cause he saw what havoc it caused in alot of lives. You can help with that. Keep up your changes. Help him ditch her by understanding what may be going on in his head. From your post I really think he wants out of it now. Be a friend. You have set boundaries, he has agreed to them, Thats good. You can get a better R and respect back. Have a great night, you are in my prayers, enjoy your husband SherryL, be thankful for this second chance for both of you to make your M wonderful!
