Oh boy I wrote such a novel that I missed your post JJ. Valid point. I really like the idea of not trying to verify her honesty. The problem is that I am way too observant. I hunt a lot so my senses are tuned for things that are out of place. Trying to look the other way is pointless for me. Tried it, didn't work. You would have better luck spraying perfume on a skunk and calling it a cat. That is why I went the more direct route of making demands/boundries. It is a fact that I have to focus elsewhere. Supporting her, loving her, respecting her. That last one is not easy either. Why? All the deceit. What is deceit? A form of disrespect. The deceit and things she does because of ehr low self-esteem are killing my respect for her. Yeah, that is a big problem too. She is so focused on her looks that she is running out of "real" parts and now wants to get her lips "done". I said, "Absolutely not!!! This isn't "Dr 90210", you can't buy your happiness. Why are you chasing what is already inside you?" How is that for "tough love"? The world does not revolve around highlights, tanning, manicures, and bikini waxing. Well, my world doesn't. I want her to be genuinely happy not this "crazy happy" that she is after. I gave her my speech on it the rest is up to the C. I know when I am over my head. Yeah, we have a long road ahead of us.
