It has been a long time since I was here. Some of that was because things were good, some is because I thought it was a lost cause. We had our asset division together and I had retained an atty. History: W - 34, H - 34, Met 8/90, Married 8/92, Kids 8/94, 10/97, 3/99, built dream home 2/00, first DB stop 2/02, W moved out 11/04, W moved back in 3/12/05
I pray some old veterans are still here and remember me. Here is the latest. After moving out without any mutual discussion 5 months prior she had a change of heart and decided she loved me again a week ago. She said she realized that she could never replace me and if I was on the market would get picked up in a minute. She caught wind that I was becoming friends with a H.S. friend of hers because she was watching my boys. Totally platonic, she works for a client of mine and our kids are in the same grade. Beautiful woman, smart, true sweetheart, the whole package. Happens to be seperated too. My W all of a sudden wanted to move back in and loved me more than ever. Coincidence, I don't think so. My LF made me realize there were good woman out there that would appreciate me. Brought back my confidence and put a spring in my step.
Was happy yet shocked when my W had her epiphany. The problem is I still don't trust my W. She has been on dating sites as recently as a month ago, keeps her cell phone off at my house and will never say who called or text, has a lot of unaccounted time, etc. Do I believe her that she is "back" and assume this behavior will stop or do I request that all this stops right now? She has been very deceitful in the past and does very little to help the problem. I used monitoring software on our computer to out her activities three years ago. Now she says she needs "privacy". However my cell phone and email are open to her at any time. I use the same password for everything and told her what it was long ago. I am 100% honest with her because I have nothing to hide but she won't return that favor.
I know that I need to trust her to give our M a chance but she refuses to do anything to help in the least. My heart wants to do it but my my brain says I must be crazy. She was even lied to her C. We have the same one and it took physical evidence for the C to believe me. Now the C is totally confused as am I. My W wants to move the big items back on Thursday but I don't think I want her to do that. If she won't make more genuine efforts to be trustworthy I don't want her back. I have lived with her lies for so long and she has wore me down. I can't take it anymore. I want to try but I need honesty from her, 100%, no less. Please give me some input on how to handle this tricky sitch!!!
