My PMA is up today. Your point is well taken. While I might not be taking any major steps back, the goals I've set/baby steps have not been coming about at all. I do need to consider what I can do that would help. What I would perceive as a step forward is more contact initiated by W and some physical contact.

Short term goals:
1) Wife will initiate contact, especially during 12:30 to 3:00 (the time from off work to when she picks up the kids). This is a grey area where I don't know what she's does. Calls for no purpose except to talk.

2) Physical contact of at least some form of intimate nature...hand holding, hug, kiss for starters.

3) W will discuss a future that seems to include me.

None of these goals are anything that I have control over. I can only be her friend during this period of time. I'll keep my initiated contact to a minimum until she starts initiating being together more frequently.


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